Ever since I was a little girl I always knew I wanted to grow up, get married, have a bunch of kids and be a stay-at-home mom. I don't think there would be anything better than being a mother. However, now that I'm paralyzed from the neck down, this dream doesn't really seem to apply to my life anymore. This was extremely painful at first since it was my dream, but I've gotten over it and although it's disappointing, it's okay now.
1. Meteorologist: when I was in elementary school I really wanted to be a meteorologist when I grew up because I found things pertaining to weather really fascinating.
2. Photographer: when I was in high school I took a photography class and I loved it! It was so fun learning how to develop film and to work in the darkroom. I decided that I wanted to be a photographer when I grew up, and although this was, and still is a dream of mine. I decided I needed to be more realistic about what I wanted to study in college. I knew I ultimately wanted to be a mom when I grew up, so I decided to put my dream of being a professional photographer aside, and settled on being an amateur since I knew I'd eventually have my own kids to practice on.
3. Hairstylist: I've always loved hair and makeup and think it would be great to be able to know how to do professional makeup, cut and color hair, style hair, do up-dos and braid in elaborate/fancy ways. Braiding tutorials on YouTube very popular right now and I love watching them, even though I'm not able to use my hands.
4. Nurse: after my first year in college I decided I wanted to be a nurse. It wasn't something I'd ever considered before, but after I decided to become a nurse, my mind was made up and I never looked back. I was so excited about becoming a nurse and I looked forward to being able to care for others. I still knew I wanted to be a mom, but I planned on working as a nurse until I had kids, and I knew it would be a practical degree to have just in case I ever needed to go back into the work field.
Now that I'm disabled none of these professions apply to my life, so I've had to regroup and form a new dream. I've decided that what I want to be most of all really isn't a new dream at all. My dream is to be somebody's wife. That's something I could still be and do a really good job. I know our marriage and life wouldn't be like everyone else's, but what I have to offer is an abundance of love and joy and happiness. There are so many people who are unhappy in their marriages, even though they seem to have "everything." My accident has given me a perspective on life where I have the ability to put the cares of the world on the back burner so I'm free to love purely and without the distractions that make some people unhappy.
I hope this dream comes true for you, Heather. Any man in this world would be beyond lucky to have you for a wife!
ReplyDeleteHeather,
ReplyDeleteYou are an absolute sweety. I wish I could wave a magic wand and make your dreams come true. There is no one who deserves it more than you!
Love,
Your Utah Friend
Heather I will continue to keep you in my prayer that God sends you your hubby. I've been single for about 7 years and its one of my biggest dreams to get married and have a family too. I'm not sure why I've been sigle for so long but I have faith that God hasn't forgotten about me. I second Tina's comment. I wish I could wave a magic wand for you too =) Stay Sweet!
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Hi Heather,
ReplyDeleteI just thought I'd post this link - it is by Bill Miller talking about his engagement. He is a C1/2 complete quad who is still vent-dependent (he is famous for inventing the IKAN bowling aid that lets people do ten-pin bowling from a power chair).
I know a few people who are severely disabled who have strong relationships and even marriages - you may have heard about Jenni T and her relationship (with another quad), and I know of someone in the UK who lives her life bedridden in a dark room (because of a neurological illness) who has a long-term boyfriend. So there is definitely hope that there is someone out there for you.